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Hi, I’m Dee Tozer, welcome!

Across 3 decades on my quest to help couples find relief from heartache and get back to love in a timely and speedy way I have sought out teachings from the great world experts in Couples Therapy.

This has equipped me to now pivot to an effective coaching and mentoring approach to guiding Couples towards a sustainable long-lasting close togetherness. Having guided more than 4,700 couples, over 94% of my couples have reported a positive outcome and I have seen what embracing the joy of camaraderie does to revitalize a marriage.

Over 2,000 of these couples came to me in crisis due to an infidelity, with 96% of those reporting they were better than they had been for a very long time and that this was still going very well 2 years after they finished their package with me.

Your accelerated repair will shift you both:

  • From crisis TO connection.
  • From devastated TO feeling soothed, settled, and sure that there is a new way to live and thrive.
  • From the sickening ball of dread in the pit of your stomach TO restoring your marriage to rekindled love, self-care, and wholeness.
  • From feeling distraught and in disbelief TO finally embracing an acceptance about the betrayal and claiming a new sense of normality in your life.
  • From overwhelmingly confused and consumed by your intense feelings that sway between anger and numbness, crying uncontrollably and forgetting what you went to the fridge for or how you drove from home to the store TO feeling like you can string a sentence together without crying as you begin to sense that deep strength that resides within you.
  • From forgetting when to eat, sustaining yourself on junk foods (or maybe alcohol or pills), feeling like the blinds are down on your life because the grief of what’s going on is so all-consuming TO calm self-confidence.
  • From feeling extreme rage and anger to the point where you’ve lost connection with your basic needs TO softening back into your loving self and fostering a deeper level of peace, personal power, and resilience.
  • From blaming yourself for what’s gone on and equally not blaming yourself TO realizing that your partner has made choices about behavior too.
  • From panicking and distraught about the potential family break up, the home you might lose, the significant assets and savings that could disappear, uncertainty about where your future is, and who can help you TO surefooted and accepting reconnection with the partner you love.

Why Work With Me

Here’s what i want you to know about the way i work with you.

  • Across more than 30 years I have guided over 2,000 couples to heal from deepest hurt from infidelity, betrayal, cheating. Whether it was as simple as online messaging or as complex as a long term affair I guide you to re-connect, and transform your relationship to one that thrives.
  • The depth of your pain, and possibly trauma, is fully understood as is the support and specific guidance you need to experience relationship breakthroughs which bring you into a new relationship that thrives.
  • I aim to provide a balanced mix of couples’ transformation strategies, uplifting mindset shift coaching and actions specific to you, which will show you how to realign and rewire your relationship and life.
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Over these 30 years many, many of the people who came to see me for help with anxiety or depression, were actually caught up in conflict with their mate and it became clear that if I could help couples build a safe and sound emotional life together then anxiety and depression were significantly decreased and often disappeared. Hence my passion was ignited.

Most couples in distress have the following stuff going on: it might be put downs, hurtful words, angry reactions, vitriolic statements, raised voices, or even hurtful silences or walk aways. There could be trust issues, jealousy, dominance and control or competitiveness. All of these threaten the emotional security of one or both partners and a fight or flight response usually occurs. Which means that one partner or both, will either fight, or flee the situation….that is walk away….or eventually leave…or seek comfort and love from someone else.

The Fight or Flight response is the basis of our self protective behaviour as human beings. The same goes for most animals who, when under threat from a predator, and their immediate survival is at stake, have to make an instantaneous decision to either stand up and fight the predator off, or flee from the danger. With couples relationship conflict it boils down to the same instinctive fight or flight response.

Hence over many many years my role as a couples counsellor and most recently “coach” has evolved to provide couples with the learnings, understandings and skills which teach them:

  • how to soothe each other and keep loving feelings alive
  • how to recognize the cry for reassurance from their spouse
  • how to break the resentment cycle
  • how to remove the threat of break up and loss of family and loved ones
  • how to dissolve the pain of feeling unloved or unloveable
  • how to express concerns and talk to each other without destructive ridicule & on-going criticism and conflict

My starting point is to create the safe place for this couple to begin expressing their concerns in a non-threatening, non-judgmental, warm and friendly setting. Whether it be in person in my counseling rooms, on line, or via my online courses you will feel heard and understood as I talk about the feelings you are probably experiencing which is what brought you to my page. The first session will put you at ease and help you find the initial steps towards sorting things out. Most often taking this first step starts to alleviate the overwhelming pain and you can see light at the end of the tunnel.

Typically it takes a program of 90 days either in person or online to turn you and your mate around. Oh, can I hear you saying wow, that’s a short time frame, I thought couples therapy would take months and months!

I know how time-pressured life is these days so I have developed an online course of 8 sessions which may provide you with everything you need to get back on track. You can work through the sessions in the comfort of your home at times to suit your schedule. It is priced to give you great value for a moderate spend. You can take a quick look here and see if it is for you: Fastrelationshiprescue program.

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